Moving In Together: Setting Up Your First Shared Bedroom
By the Kinky Beds teamPublished 2 min read
Quick answer
- Choose the bed together: it's the one piece of furniture you'll share every night.
- Agree a style that's neither "yours" nor "mine" but "ours".
- Give each person their own storage and bedside space.
- Talk about sleep habits and privacy early.
Moving in together is exciting, and the bedroom is where it gets real. Here's how to set up a shared bedroom that works for both of you from day one.
Choose the bed together
Whatever else you bring from previous homes, a bed you choose together is a good fresh start. Talk about size (see Double vs King), firmness, style and whether one of you runs hot or sprawls. Our 30-second which bed size quiz can settle debates.
Merge your styles
| Step | How |
|---|---|
| Find the overlap | Each pick three words for how the room should feel; keep the shared ones |
| Neutral base | Walls and bed in a calm, shared palette |
| Personal touches | One or two meaningful items each |
| Shared purchase | One new thing you choose together, often the bed or bedding |
Storage and space
Divide wardrobe space fairly, give each person a bedside table with a drawer, and add one lidded box for shared and private items. Fewer arguments start with "where do I put my things?" when everyone has a place.
Sleep habits
Early riser vs night owl, reading light vs total darkness, window open vs closed: talk about it now. Separate bedside lamps and a bedside drawer each solve a lot.
Privacy in a new home
Flatmates in the past? Family visiting more now? Think about sound (rugs, curtains), a privacy lock, and furniture that keeps its secrets. A bed with hidden restraints looks like an ordinary designer bed when parents come to stay. See discreet bedroom design ideas.
Before the bed arrives
Measure the room and the route in, especially in a flat with tight stairs. The Sovereign Bed arrives flat-packed with full instructions and is a good first build together (most couples take under two hours).
The Sovereign Bed
From £599.00 · Free UK delivery
- Restraint rings hidden behind interchangeable decorative panels that swap in under 60 seconds, no tools
- Solid hardwood frame with a 150kg load rating
- Double (4ft 6in) or King (5ft), for standard UK mattresses up to 30 cm deep
- Onyx Black or Alabaster White · plain, unmarked packaging · 14-day returns
Frequently asked questions
What should couples buy first when moving in together?
A bed you choose together is a great first shared purchase: you'll use it every night, and it sets the style for the room.
How do you combine two people's styles in one bedroom?
Agree a calm, neutral base, keep the words you both use to describe how the room should feel, and add one or two personal pieces each.
What size bed should a couple get?
Many couples are happy with a Double (135 × 190 cm mattress); a King (150 × 200 cm) gives more space if your room allows.